A lot of my blogs concern the area where I grew up. I often compare my home town to the mythical Mayberry. In many ways there is a parallel. A lovely small town with an excellent education system and plenty of things for kids to do. Growing up there I was aware of how beautiful others thought the area was. I saw the “summer people” flock out there. And these ” summer people ” came in great numbers. ” Termites ” my Dad would call them because they seem to come out of the woodwork ! They were wealthy folks,some famous and some not.
There was a big difference in at least one area though, affordable housing. Even back then the cost of land and a house was steadily climbing at a ridiculous rate. I heard tales of how much so and so paid for his land and how much he sold it for. Back then there was very little concern about that. The general attitude was, you are on your own.
One other area a bit lacking was the job market. Farming and fishing,the main occupations,were fading out. Neither could compete in a viable fashion against the big boys of the industry. The days of one man,or even a small group of men,working the bay for a living were coming to an end. The local farmers could not compete in a larger market. I was living in the end of an era.
My father had a plan for me. No different than any other father he wanted the best for me. He wanted me to succeed. His mantra was always the same. After high school you are either going to college or joining the military ! Period , end of discussion. You are not just hanging around here,staying in my house and eating my food. Sounds cruel doesn’t it ? It wasn’t intended that way. That was Dads way of offering motivation ! It is similar to way he taught you to swim, throw you overboard ! Literally, he threw you overboard. He then offered encouragement and advice from the boat on the best way to stay afloat.
College really wasn’t an option. My grades would have gotten me into a college I’m sure of that. Not Harvard or Yale but I’m sure there is one out there that would have accepted me or at the very least my money.Problem there was,no money. I could have gotten a job but none that would have paid enough for me to live on my own. Rent was too high even back then. So off to the Navy I went.
And that is how I wound up in the Navy. It would make a better story if I told you about swelling pride and patriotism but that wasn’t the case. True, we were embroiled in Vietnam at the time, and I was willing to go fight if my country asked me. The key word there being “asked.” The idea made me a little nervous, another reason for the Navy choice. Hard for anyone to sneak up on you in the night when you are on a ship ! Simple logic.
I have spent many hours thinking about what if. What if I had stayed home ? I’ve even been accused of wanting to go back and live there. I’ll admit there is some truth in that. I left Mayberry. Truth is, Mayberry never really existed. In my memories it certainly does. Now this town and indeed the entire area is a playground for the rich. I expect the locals from places like Aspen and Marthas’ Vineyard feel the same way.
Things that could have been. Others exist only in memory. I do take consolation in the fact that I grew up in such a wonderful place. I was indeed fortunate to have lived there in that era and to have known those folks.
Because in the end it is the people that make the place special. Generations lived there and a closeness was developed. A huge family. Then the ” summer people ” stayed longer and longer. Soon the gene pool became polluted ! All things change. It was a damn good run,however.
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A lot of my blogs concern the area where I grew up. I often compare my home town to the mythical Mayberry. In many ways there is a parallel. A lovely small town with an excellent education system and plenty of things for kids to do. Growing up there I was aware of how beautiful others thought the area was. I saw the “summer people” flock out there. And these ” summer people ” came in great numbers. ” Termites ” my Dad would call them because they seem to come out of the woodwork ! They were wealthy folks,some famous and some not.
There was a big difference in at least one area though, affordable housing. Even back then the cost of land and a house was steadily climbing at a ridiculous rate. I heard tales of how much so and so paid for his land and how much he sold it for. Back then there was very little concern about that. The general attitude was, you are on your own.
One other area a bit lacking was the job market. Farming and fishing,the main occupations,were fading out. Neither could compete in a viable fashion against the big boys of the industry. The days of one man,or even a small group of men,working the bay for a living were coming to an end. The local farmers could not compete in a larger market. I was living in the end of an era.
My father had a plan for me. No different than any other father he wanted the best for me. He wanted me to succeed. His mantra was always the same. After high school you are either going to college or joining the military ! Period , end of discussion. You are not just hanging around here,staying in my house and eating my food. Sounds cruel doesn’t it ? It wasn’t intended that way. That was Dads way of offering motivation ! It is similar to way he taught you to swim, throw you overboard ! Literally, he threw you overboard. He then offered encouragement and advice from the boat on the best way to stay afloat.
College really wasn’t an option. My grades would have gotten me into a college I’m sure of that. Not Harvard or Yale but I’m sure there is one out there that would have accepted me or at the very least my money.Problem there was,no money. I could have gotten a job but none that would have paid enough for me to live on my own. Rent was too high even back then. So off to the Navy I went.
And that is how I wound up in the Navy. It would make a better story if I told you about swelling pride and patriotism but that wasn’t the case. True, we were embroiled in Vietnam at the time, and I was willing to go fight if my country asked me. The key word there being “asked.” The idea made me a little nervous, another reason for the Navy choice. Hard for anyone to sneak up on you in the night when you are on a ship ! Simple logic.
I have spent many hours thinking about what if. What if I had stayed home ? I’ve even been accused of wanting to go back and live there. I’ll admit there is some truth in that. I left Mayberry. Truth is, Mayberry never really existed. In my memories it certainly does. Now this town and indeed the entire area is a playground for the rich. I expect the locals from places like Aspen and Marthas’ Vineyard feel the same way.
Things that could have been. Others exist only in memory. I do take consolation in the fact that I grew up in such a wonderful place. I was indeed fortunate to have lived there in that era and to have known those folks.
Because in the end it is the people that make the place special. Generations lived there and a closeness was developed. A huge family. Then the ” summer people ” stayed longer and longer. Soon the gene pool became polluted ! All things change. It was a damn good run,however.
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